At 73, retired teacher places ad for partner

At 73, retired teacher places ad for partner

Shrinivasa.M@timesgroup.com

Mysuru:28.03.2021 

A matrimonial advertisement published by a 73-year-old retired teacher seeking a husband has triggered debate and discussion in the city and online, with many cheering her boldness and positive attitude, and others advising caution against frauds.

In the ad, the woman sought an alliance from any healthy man older than her, and mandatorily a Brahmin, of her community. She said she is leading a lonely life and looking for a “jeevana sangati”. She told STOI: “I don’t have a family of my own. My parents are no more. My first marriage ended in divorce. I fear staying alone. Thoughts that I may fall at home and fail to get help or fear of walking home from the bus stop have led me to look for a life partner.”

She said her marriage and divorce were painful and the hurt prevented her from contemplating remarriage all these years. More than a spouse in the traditional sense, she added, what she needs now is a “companion for the rest of my life”. The advertisement, widely shared on social media, drew applause from many who said her decision would break cultural stereotypes in society.

Roopa Hassan, an activist, said the septuagenarian most likely feared loneliness and has thus chosen to look for a partner at this age, having led an independent life so far. “She should be very careful about her decision, or else, criminals may take advantage of it. The best move would be to find a life partner through trustworthy organisations,” Hassan said.

Raveesh BN, a psychiatry professor, said the ad should be an eye-opener for society where old people are most often neglected.