Thursday, January 17, 2019

5 THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO YOUR PARTNER DURING A FIGHT

— Anannya Chatterjee, iDiva.com  17.01.2019

Had an ugly fight with your partner last night? Regretting all those mean things you said to him in the heat of the moment? We all tend to do this, and you are no exception. When we’re angry, we fail to realise that there are certain things we shouldn’t say to our partner. Here we have made a list of the phrases and topics you should completely avoid during an argument.

1 ‘I WILL LEAVE’

Deep within you know that you won’t and you love your partner too much to leave. So, why threaten him? Empty threats often take the wrong route, and can affect your relationship. It’s a heartless thing to say and can lead to anxiety and fear. If you love your partner, don’t make him go through this emotional trauma.

2 ‘DO YOU LOVE ME?’

Questioning your partner’s love for you is the stupidest thing you can do during an argument, and yet we all do it! Just because you are having an argument or a fight, doesn’t take away his love from you or your relationship. It’s absolutely normal to have an argument, and that just proves you both have an opinion of your own. Being opinionated is always a good thing but don’t question love. You will damage your relationship.

3 BRINGING UP PAST QUARRELS

Do you want your relationship to turn toxic? No, right? So, don’t dig your own grave because nobody likes to be blamed time and again for buried hatchets. Neither will your partner, we can assure that. Don’t yell at him for past incidents. Imagine yourself at the receiving end. Multiple accusations give rise to retaliations and attacks. Rather, try to focus on the current issue and fix it. Raking up the past repeatedly will only make your partner question whether the relationship is worth it.

4 CALLING EACH OTHER NAMES

When you are hurt and angry, you don’t realise what you’re saying and it often goes to an extent of name-calling. A relationship should steer clear of any abuse, be it verbal or physical. Name-calling will only demean your love. Couples also often indulge in character assassination during a fight. But guys you need to draw the line somewhere.

5 PERSONAL ATTACKS

There comes a point in an argument, where winning it becomes the motto, and you get distracted from the real issue. In fact, to win the argument you would go to any extent, even personal attacks for that matter. We strongly recommend against this. It will drive emotions into a negative space, and to get back from there can be really difficult.

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