9 Ways to improve your sense of humour and escape the friendzone
— Sunaina Mullick, Mensxp.com times of india
10.06.2018
Having a great sense of humour is an added bonus to your already charming personality. Think about it. If you have the looks, personality and charm department covered, then all you need is to brush up on your humour skills, and you’re gold. At least for her. When women are asked what they seek in a man, they always end the answer with, ‘He should have a good sense of humour’. Sometimes it’s even above ‘he should be good looking’.
Having a good sense of humour isn’t just about getting jokes and laughing at them. It’s about making sure you make her laugh, so she knows there is never a dull moment with you. So, in order to up your humour quotient a notch and escape that wretched friendzone, we’ve devised a few tips you can follow to fine tune your funny bone and floor her with your ridiculously funny wit.
1 ALWAYS KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE
Not all women have the same tickle spot. So, when you’re out with a woman, always gauge the kind of attention she needs and what makes her laugh. It could be your quirkiness, wit, sarcasm or even straight out slapstick stuff. In some cases, it could be you making a fool of yourself! Whatever it is, always figure what kind of an audience she is and what her sense of humour is. Only then you’d be able to hack your way through an awesome evening out with her.
2 WATCHING COMEDY HELPS
If you already have a humouristic flair then you’re set, but to enhance some humour skills, you can watch some standup comedy artists or funny shows online. The delivery of your joke is important. Whether it’s a sarcastic retort or a witty comment, the way you deliver it is what matters because that’s the deciding edge for whether or not your joke is funny. So, watch some comedians work their magic on the screen and let them help you.
3 MAKE SURE THE JOKES ARE NON-OFFENSIVE
Make sure your jokes do not offend her. This takes us back to the first tip — know your audience. If you’re out with an all-out feminist, you might want to stay away from sexist jokes. Similarly, if she’s healthy or not too tall, body shaming jokes shouldn’t be indulged in. Not just on her, on anyone, in front of her! If you’re comfortable around her maybe you can pick out a few things you can joke about which may not be offensive to her. Like if she does yoga, you can take a dig at yoga and make a harmless little joke, which can be taken light heartedly and make her smile.
4 TIMING IS EVERYTHING
You can’t make a joke at every chance you get. There is something known as comic timing, which has to be impeccable. For instance, if she’s talking about her dog, who recently died, you can’t start making dead dog jokes. In fact, you should have some light hearted comedy to make her laugh or smile. But if she seems a bit too upset maybe lay off the jokes and console her instead?
Sometimes when the timing is off, the joke can get from bad to worse, making it the end of anything and everything fruitful. So, always know when the right time is to crack a joke.
5 KEEP SOME JOKES HANDY, JUST IN CASE
Sometimes you may be really nervous, but don’t fret too much. In case you’re having trouble switching your funny side on, then you can perhaps learn some jokes? Don’t worry, even the funniest comedians have scriptwriters, so there is nothing wrong with learning a few jokes. But remember only learn the jokes that are funny to you because if you don’t get the joke yourself, how will you ever tell it to make her laugh?
6 ADD SOME F(P)UN
If you’re all about puns, then that’s an added bonus. Puns usually bring out your witty side and if you can make a pun or two, you’ll definitely impress her. Puns are very situational and can’t be used as normal jokes. So, if you see a situation arising, use your brain and try and make the situation punnier!
7 IT’S OKAY TO BE THE BUTT OF THE JOKE
Sometime making jokes about other people can be offensive, but making jokes about yourself is always the safer side. I am sure you’ve done some really embarrassing things in the past? What you can do is, make really funny stories up about different instances where you’ve messed up and tell it like a joke. They might be embarrassing to you but they will definitely make other people laugh! Storytelling is an art, so make the stories as interesting and funny as you can. It’s a really good icebreaker too.
8 BE CONFIDENT
That, of course, goes without saying. If you’re not confident, your joke delivery will be poor and she will definitely get bored. If you’re confident about the way you tell a joke, then your joke will actually do what it’s supposed to — make her laugh! So, while telling a funny story, or being punny or witty, make sure you don’t stutter or stammer and your comic timing is good.
9 ALWAYS LOOK AT THE BRIGHTER SIDE
A funny guy such as yourself can’t be morose and depressed. It is said though that most comedians suffer from depression or have low selfesteem. But these issues crop up if you keep your feelings trapped and only deal with people through humour, as an outlet. Make sure you emote all emotions equally and are always looking at the positives life throws at you. Only then, will your sense of humour dazzle her.
— Sunaina Mullick, Mensxp.com times of india
10.06.2018
Having a great sense of humour is an added bonus to your already charming personality. Think about it. If you have the looks, personality and charm department covered, then all you need is to brush up on your humour skills, and you’re gold. At least for her. When women are asked what they seek in a man, they always end the answer with, ‘He should have a good sense of humour’. Sometimes it’s even above ‘he should be good looking’.
Having a good sense of humour isn’t just about getting jokes and laughing at them. It’s about making sure you make her laugh, so she knows there is never a dull moment with you. So, in order to up your humour quotient a notch and escape that wretched friendzone, we’ve devised a few tips you can follow to fine tune your funny bone and floor her with your ridiculously funny wit.
1 ALWAYS KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE
Not all women have the same tickle spot. So, when you’re out with a woman, always gauge the kind of attention she needs and what makes her laugh. It could be your quirkiness, wit, sarcasm or even straight out slapstick stuff. In some cases, it could be you making a fool of yourself! Whatever it is, always figure what kind of an audience she is and what her sense of humour is. Only then you’d be able to hack your way through an awesome evening out with her.
2 WATCHING COMEDY HELPS
If you already have a humouristic flair then you’re set, but to enhance some humour skills, you can watch some standup comedy artists or funny shows online. The delivery of your joke is important. Whether it’s a sarcastic retort or a witty comment, the way you deliver it is what matters because that’s the deciding edge for whether or not your joke is funny. So, watch some comedians work their magic on the screen and let them help you.
3 MAKE SURE THE JOKES ARE NON-OFFENSIVE
Make sure your jokes do not offend her. This takes us back to the first tip — know your audience. If you’re out with an all-out feminist, you might want to stay away from sexist jokes. Similarly, if she’s healthy or not too tall, body shaming jokes shouldn’t be indulged in. Not just on her, on anyone, in front of her! If you’re comfortable around her maybe you can pick out a few things you can joke about which may not be offensive to her. Like if she does yoga, you can take a dig at yoga and make a harmless little joke, which can be taken light heartedly and make her smile.
4 TIMING IS EVERYTHING
You can’t make a joke at every chance you get. There is something known as comic timing, which has to be impeccable. For instance, if she’s talking about her dog, who recently died, you can’t start making dead dog jokes. In fact, you should have some light hearted comedy to make her laugh or smile. But if she seems a bit too upset maybe lay off the jokes and console her instead?
Sometimes when the timing is off, the joke can get from bad to worse, making it the end of anything and everything fruitful. So, always know when the right time is to crack a joke.
5 KEEP SOME JOKES HANDY, JUST IN CASE
Sometimes you may be really nervous, but don’t fret too much. In case you’re having trouble switching your funny side on, then you can perhaps learn some jokes? Don’t worry, even the funniest comedians have scriptwriters, so there is nothing wrong with learning a few jokes. But remember only learn the jokes that are funny to you because if you don’t get the joke yourself, how will you ever tell it to make her laugh?
6 ADD SOME F(P)UN
If you’re all about puns, then that’s an added bonus. Puns usually bring out your witty side and if you can make a pun or two, you’ll definitely impress her. Puns are very situational and can’t be used as normal jokes. So, if you see a situation arising, use your brain and try and make the situation punnier!
7 IT’S OKAY TO BE THE BUTT OF THE JOKE
Sometime making jokes about other people can be offensive, but making jokes about yourself is always the safer side. I am sure you’ve done some really embarrassing things in the past? What you can do is, make really funny stories up about different instances where you’ve messed up and tell it like a joke. They might be embarrassing to you but they will definitely make other people laugh! Storytelling is an art, so make the stories as interesting and funny as you can. It’s a really good icebreaker too.
8 BE CONFIDENT
That, of course, goes without saying. If you’re not confident, your joke delivery will be poor and she will definitely get bored. If you’re confident about the way you tell a joke, then your joke will actually do what it’s supposed to — make her laugh! So, while telling a funny story, or being punny or witty, make sure you don’t stutter or stammer and your comic timing is good.
9 ALWAYS LOOK AT THE BRIGHTER SIDE
A funny guy such as yourself can’t be morose and depressed. It is said though that most comedians suffer from depression or have low selfesteem. But these issues crop up if you keep your feelings trapped and only deal with people through humour, as an outlet. Make sure you emote all emotions equally and are always looking at the positives life throws at you. Only then, will your sense of humour dazzle her.
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